Balance your body and mind
Understand how stress shapes the way you feel, think, and connect with others.
Why Am I
the way i am?
The Hidden Costs of Stress
Your reactions have a history. Childhood experiences, temperament, relationships, and prolonged stress can all help shape the way you think, feel, and respond. Patterns that once helped you cope may now make it harder to rest, set boundaries, or make your own choices.
In Why Am I the Way I Am?, Agata Remi explores how these patterns develop—and how we can begin to change them. The book connects insights into brain development with everyday experiences, showing how stress can affect our bodies, emotions, and relationships.
You’ll discover connections between experiences that may have seemed unrelated: tension, overthinking, exhaustion, and the feeling that you always have to keep going.
Understanding those connections can help you approach yourself with greater compassion and make more conscious choices about what comes next.
Understanding why you are the way you are can be the beginning of discovering who you can become.
I'm Me. You're you
The Hidden Costs of Stress in Relationships
How can we stay close and still be ourselves?
You care about the people you love. You try to listen, explain, and find common ground. Yet some conversations keep ending in tension, withdrawal, or agreement just to keep the peace.
When does care become pressure? How can you respect someone’s “no” when it leaves you disappointed? And what needs to happen after an apology for something to truly change?
In I’m Me. You’re You., Agata Remi explores how to build closeness while making room for each person’s voice, boundaries, and imperfections.
Through everyday situations and a practical guide to boundaries, the book invites you to recognize pressure, express your needs more clearly, and take responsibility for your own responses. It also explores how we can work through hurt and remain connected through disagreement.
We can be close without losing ourselves.
What inspired me to write?
Learn the story behind it
A Personal Story of Illness, Love, and Understanding
My interest in understanding my own body, emotions, and reactions began long before I studied naturopathy. Why did certain experiences affect me so deeply? Why was it sometimes so hard to feel at ease?
I had been exploring these questions for years when my husband became ill.
Burnout, depression, and post-COVID complications changed our daily lives. Together, we faced uncertainty, searched for answers, and learned how to care for each other as illness changed our routines, plans, and expectations.
We lived through it differently. He faced the symptoms. I struggled with worry, helplessness, and the everyday demands of supporting someone I love. We were both learning to recognize our own needs and limits, and to understand what the other was going through.
What we experienced brought me back to familiar questions, now much closer to home: What shapes the way we respond? What happens when we keep pushing beyond our limits? And how can understanding ourselves help us care for each other?
Why Am I the Way I Am? — The Hidden Costs of Stress grew out of that search for understanding.
I wrote it as a woman, a wife, and someone still learning to make sense of her own experience. Perhaps some of the questions that brought me here are questions you have asked yourself, too.
Coming soon…
The Hidden Costs of Human Weakness
